Stretching the Umbilical Cord; The Dreaded Helicopter Parent-Are You One?

Stretching the Umbilical Cord The Dreaded Helicopter Parent-Are You One? In a recent report from Developmental Psychology, author Dr. Nicole Perry suggests that those children whose parents are over-controlling when they are young are less able to control their emotions and impulses as they get older. Evidence reveals that controlling parenting is linked to a number of problems as a child grows up: It suggests that to foster emotional and [...]

By |2018-08-10T20:52:13+00:00September 7th, 2018|Parenting, Parenting Lessons, Parenting Style|0 Comments

Children Are Dogs

Children Are Dogs Let me clarify: children are like dogs. My daughter appeared one day with a white Siberian husky that proceeded to upend our lives.   He was in the third day of life with us when he made a dash for freedom, running off and getting hit by a car. After a $2,000 donation to our new best friend, the vet, he limped back to us, forever to [...]

Am I a Permissive Parent?

Am I a Permissive Parent? About twenty years ago, I had a client mom that I really liked.   She was a single mom of an adoptive daughter, a little older than her peers, very rich, and a very permissive parent. She did not set out to be a permissive parent, but parenting on her own, and with no support group of relatives or friends, she quickly fell into the [...]

“We Are The Champions, My Friends”

"We Are The Champions, My Friends!” Let’s play a game together. No cheating, please-I think you know the answers! 1. Table R1 of the Program for International Student Assessment lists countries by the scores of 15-year-old students on the PISA reading literacy scale, 2015. Which country finished 24th? Answer: USA 2. Table M1 of the Program for International Student Assessment lists countries by the scores of 15-year-old students on the PISA mathematical [...]

By |2018-08-10T19:24:03+00:00August 8th, 2018|Parenting, Parenting Style|0 Comments

What Are Parenting Styles?

What Are Parenting Styles? A little while back, I wrote a tongue-in-cheek blog comparing the behavior of dog owners at my local park to the parenting styles of many adults with children. However, understanding your parenting style is central to becoming a successful parent. As with everything, you can go to the web or a glossy magazine and find articles that mention four, six, twelve parenting styles, and you can [...]

“If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.”― Bette Davis

“If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.”― Bette Davis As a parent, I am well-used to being told how much I am hated by my children. It started when they were young-very young- and it has continued, although thankfully, it occurs a lot less now that they are young adults. Now, it has turned into something much closer to frustration and resignation [...]

Bewitched; Bothered, and Bewildered

Bewitched; Bothered, and Bewildered If only we could each have a pert little nose like Samantha on Bewitched to solve all our parenting problems. Her predominant parenting style involved her meeting her family’s everyday problems with a smile and a twitch of her nose.  Viola! No more problems. One happy family. I have mentioned the importance of each of you understanding your individual temperament in a previous blog.  As parents, [...]

It Is Easier To Build Up a Child Than Than To Repair An Adult

It Is Easier To Build Up a Child Than Than To Repair An Adult We each make a pledge not to be our parent.  We shake our heads, wondering how smart people could have made so many mistakes. We promise that we will do it right. I am the king of those promises.  I knew I could do better than my two parents who left school at 16, who bought [...]

Everyone Has A Temperament… Do You Understand Your Child’s?

Everyone Has A Temperament... Do You Understand Your Child’s? Consider how your personality, experiences, and temperament have made you the person you are today. Now, consider the same for your child. Your child has a distinct innate temperament that influences and impacts all he/she experiences in life. This is why it is vital to understand your child’s temperament. Moreover, just how your child’s temperament matches your personal style of parenting [...]

By |2018-06-05T19:38:41+00:00April 23rd, 2018|Parenting, Parenting Style, Temperament|0 Comments

Do You Like Your Child?

Do You Like Your Child? The match or mismatch between your child’s temperament and your distinct parenting style has a major impact on your child’s emotional development and happiness. There are times when you may not necessarily like your child and how he/she is presenting to the world. There have been times when I have not liked each of my three children-I always loved them, but I did not like [...]

By |2018-06-05T19:39:12+00:00April 22nd, 2018|Parenting, Parenting Style, Temperament|0 Comments