Children Are Dogs

Children Are Dogs Let me clarify: children are like dogs. My daughter appeared one day with a white Siberian husky that proceeded to upend our lives.   He was in the third day of life with us when he made a dash for freedom, running off and getting hit by a car. After a $2,000 donation to our new best friend, the vet, he limped back to us, forever to [...]

Am I a Permissive Parent?

Am I a Permissive Parent? About twenty years ago, I had a client mom that I really liked.   She was a single mom of an adoptive daughter, a little older than her peers, very rich, and a very permissive parent. She did not set out to be a permissive parent, but parenting on her own, and with no support group of relatives or friends, she quickly fell into the [...]

Dumbing Down? New study suggests young people’s IQs are in decline.

Dumbing Down? New study suggests young people's IQs are in decline. The above title comes from a recent article following a report by Norwegian scientists Ole Rogeberg and Bernt Bratsberg that suggests that the consistent rise in IQ scores since WW2 ( by three points a decade) is now past its peak score in 1975. This shift, they say, could be due to many factors, including the way children are brought [...]

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What Are Parenting Styles?

What Are Parenting Styles? A little while back, I wrote a tongue-in-cheek blog comparing the behavior of dog owners at my local park to the parenting styles of many adults with children. However, understanding your parenting style is central to becoming a successful parent. As with everything, you can go to the web or a glossy magazine and find articles that mention four, six, twelve parenting styles, and you can [...]

Are Parenting Classes Worth The Time and Bother?

Are Parenting Classes Worth The Time and Bother? As with most things in life, the easy answer to the question if parenting classes are effective, is both yes and no. Being a parent is the most important thing we will ask anyone to do, and we assume people get the knowledge by osmosis – and, of course, they do no such thing.  No-one has any idea as to what type [...]

Kids! You can talk and talk till your face is blue! Kids! But they still just do what they want to do! Why can’t they be like we were, Perfect in every way? What’s the matter with kids today? -Bye Bye Birdie, 1956

Kids! You can talk and talk till your face is blue! Kids! But they still just do what they want to do! Why can't they be like we were, Perfect in every way? What's the matter with kids today? -Bye Bye Birdie, 1956 Imagine a scenario where you have no control of the changes happening in your body; where you begin to make cognitive leaps and are able to start [...]

By |2018-06-05T19:40:24+00:00May 21st, 2018|Parenting, Parenting Lessons|0 Comments

Pick Yourself Up, Brush Yourself Off, Start All Over Again

Pick Yourself Up, Brush Yourself Off, Start All Over Again While parents in the U.S. are expected to provide an even greater investment in childcare, entertainment, protection, college, and after-college care than prior generations of parents here and elsewhere, there are fewer guidelines for what they might expect in return. Parents may feel hurt or betrayed if they do not get the love and gratitude they look forward to and [...]

By |2018-06-05T19:20:18+00:00May 21st, 2018|Parenting, Parenting Lessons|0 Comments

“If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.”― Bette Davis

“If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent.”― Bette Davis As a parent, I am well-used to being told how much I am hated by my children. It started when they were young-very young- and it has continued, although thankfully, it occurs a lot less now that they are young adults. Now, it has turned into something much closer to frustration and resignation [...]

Parents Should Run When They Hear Either of These Two Statements

Parents Should Run When They Hear Either of These Two Statements I remember when I was very young and working at a summer camp with kids dealing with emotional and behavioral issues.  There was one boy, around 6th grade, who saw the glass as 9/10ths empty and who was given to explosive rage at the drop of a hat.  His mother came to visit and asked me how he was [...]

Bewitched; Bothered, and Bewildered

Bewitched; Bothered, and Bewildered If only we could each have a pert little nose like Samantha on Bewitched to solve all our parenting problems. Her predominant parenting style involved her meeting her family’s everyday problems with a smile and a twitch of her nose.  Viola! No more problems. One happy family. I have mentioned the importance of each of you understanding your individual temperament in a previous blog.  As parents, [...]