Save Our Boys!

Our boys are struggling in today’s economy, education system, and society, in general.

Both objective statistics and subjective stories from parents and teachers suggest that our boys are dropping out of traditional societal work and relational commitments.

The cliched image of the young man living in his parent’s basement and playing video games is becoming more and more commonplace.

Girls, too, have challenges that we will examine in a later blog.  However, let’s start this discussion of boys with some sobering statistics, in no order of priority.

Statistics About Males

  • Boys are 4 times more likely to be diagnosed as ADD
  • 33% of fathers are missing from raising their children
  • Boys are 30% more likely than girls to drop out of school.
  • Girls outperform boys in almost every area of school life.
  • AP classes contain 70-80%  girls
  • Boys are 2/3rds more likely to be part of a special education class.
  • Campuses are now 60% female
  • Women today earn 170,000 more college degrees annually than men.
  • 56% of girls win bachelor degrees; 53% win graduate degrees
  • 75% of leadership classes in schools and colleges are occupied by young women
  • 93% of prison populations are male
  • 73% of men become robbery victims
  • 76% of homicides involve men
  • 99% of all school shooters are young white teens
  • 80% of suicides are by males- men ensure they are successful by using guns, etc.
  • 66% of divorces are begun by women who feel that their marriages are not working
  • Men lose child custody 66% of the time
  • 16% of  boys will report sexual abuse; many more likely do not report
  • 43% of dating college women report assaults.
  • 99.9% of combat deaths are male.
  • 94% of gang members are male.
  • Boys read and write less than girls
  • Autism rates are 1:57 for boys; 1:151 for girls.
  • 71% of school suspensions are given to boys
  • 80% of these suspensions go to boys of color.
  • 15% of teachers in school are men, mainly to be found at the high school level.
  • 86% of rough sleepers are male
  • 75% of wives control the family finances.

And on, and on, and on.

Before the parents of girls breathe a sigh of relief, please remember that these are the young men girls will be sharing an office and home with, and attempting to establish strong, long-term relationships.

What are we to do?

Read the next blog here at Confident Parenting to discover what you can do to protect and nurture your wonderful, gentle son from a culture that increasingly treats him as a threat to society. Talk to us about developing a plan.

Start tonight by sitting down with your son’s father and discussing the statistics above.  Decide if your child needs a plan, and we will help you to plot it out.

* Just after writing this blog, I read a similar blog.